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Lucky or Blessings? What is the difference?

“Good luck” as people wish someone as they are leaving on a job interview or going on a date. The words we use are very important and per Jesus “will all be judged”. Therefore, while our hearts most likely have no malcontent is it praising God by saying “Good luck”. When I thought of this I did not feel it was innocent to say anymore. “All good things come from the Father of Heavenly Lights” as the Word says. When we wish someone good luck it goes against the Gospel and the sovereign will of God. I personally say God Bless, I know you will be good (knowing Who is with the person I am stating these words too. “May the Lord Bless and Keep you” is Scripture and again the “Word is suitable for all teaching”. I think this is a lesson to be aware of. If someone reads this and thinks “oh whatever, God does not care if I wish someone good luck”, then I would say ask Him and you will probably be surprised. He is the One who “blesses all people”. He is the One “through whom all blessings flow”. I use this example to be very aware, again, of what you believe, why, and how you behave. You do not have to be a Christian to benefit from this lesson. What we say, people listen too, and when I hear people give credit to anyone but Christ such as “karma” “the universe”, “fate”. They are in direct opposition of His command which is to “Love the Lord with all our minds, hearts, souls and strength.”

Is this legalistic, you can say that but to be blunt it is about being aware of our words, actions, beliefs and how they impact every area of our life and relationships especially with the One who gave His life “as a ransom for the world’s sins”. The Lamb of God “is worthy of our praise” and I think is worthy of giving Him the glory vs Satan who is anything such as “luck”. There is no in between people! Either Jesus or Satan..there is “no other name under Heaven which people can be saved but Jesus”.

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“Are You Okay?”

Therapy Minute: Are you equipped? Are you ready to be an amazing father, employee, pastor, grandma, student, boss? Do you have what it takes to do this, to please this person, to hate the right things, to post the right posts on Facebook, the give just the right amount to the church, to eat the certain amount of calories, and on and on and on….Wow!!

I am exhausted freaking thinking about all we have to do, to perform, to hate or love the right things, to be and look a certain way…BUT I am glad I know the Truth! The Savior, the Redeemer, The Equipper, The Supplier of Eternity, The Great I AM, the Resurrection and the Life, “the Lamb of God who takes away ALL the sins of (you, me, our friends, family, enemies), the world!”…we are free to not have to worry about how many likes we get on a post, how many pounds we gain or lose, who we piss off who we….etc etc…We are Equipped to be A Child of God just like Jesus…He frees us to Love and to Forgive ourselves and others…to want to do great things to bring the Kingdom come, but we are not condemned for not doing enough or too much…We are FREE, chains falling, hope beyond comprehension, living forever with Him, your stone is rolled away in front of your grave!

“For I am Bold, my God is right beside me, I will not be afraid” Psalms 16:8

Mental Health

Mental Health is a part of medicine that cannot be seen under the microscope they used to say, therefore it was not medicine. This is not the case as technology has developed to show, for example, MRI results have displayed certain areas of the brain in patients with certain diagnoses including Addictions. Generally, most addictions are linked to the pleasure center of the brain; however, in the past few years gambling addiction has been found to go to a separate part of the brain but has been found to have the feelings equivalent to the use of cocaine. Mental health varies from culture to culture, and it has evolved from Western Medicine and Eastern Medicine to county to county within a State. There are different cultural perceptions of mental health, illnesses, treatment, psychiatry etc among the vast regions of the United States. Awareness of mental health has increased in the media, both negative and positive.

The treatment of mental health is based much more in science and the combination of pharmacology and therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), has proven to be the most effective when treating mood disorders such as depression. Research is vast in mental health and continues to help clinicians hone their skills to help patients with proper diagnosing and treatment plans. CBT is currently the most accepted therapy that insurance companies will pay for. Insurance is a strong variable now in the treatment of mental health conditions. Therapy used to be more of an art form and still is but documentation and paperwork can keep therapists from meeting the needs of the community. There are blessing and curses with science, technology, government, insurance, but this is not just poignant in Psychiatry but all facets of medicine. The good news is the goal of clinical treatment for mental health continues to help patients have hope, decreased symptoms, higher quality of life, and the people who enter the field continue to have the heart of a servant, which will most likely be the most stable tenet of behavioral health forever. Telemedicine and online counseling is helping people who were not able to ascertain treatment even 10 years ago. People with agoraphobia, the fear of leaving enclosed spaces, are acquiring long needed treatment as this population has not had the resources needed to overcome their diagnoses and symptoms. Hope, support, victory, and overcoming challenges continues to abound in mental health treatment, This article is not capable of exploring all the facets of psychiatry and mental health but hopefully this article helps the reader have a greater understanding in the world of Mental Health.

“When Love (Jesus ) Broke Through!”

Driving down the road today and saw a guy walking and picked him up. Heard his story, had 2 DUI’s, loves his son, loves Jesus but down on his luck….That is his story but we talked about his next chapter in life…who writes it I asked him. He pondered and I helped Him…Jesus..His name changes everything, his thinking, emotions changed, his hope increased. So I took him to his very humble home, prayed with him, a grown man started crying tears of relief, hope, and it was a beautiful picture. The power of Christ was very present on a country road when I was on my way to shop.

I tell this not to brag at all about helping someone, but when we stop to hear someone’s story and listen, then encourage them to let Jesus write their story, the power of God enters, Oceans part, dry bones come alive, Hope roars like a Lion…”Do not be afraid” 365 times were commanded by Jesus…If you are afraid of helping someone because they might smell from sweating because they are walking down a country road then you might need more help than that person. “When Love Broke Through” by Toby Mac comes to mind today as I experienced this awesome interaction that Jesus planned. I pray that God’s love broke through my new friend today…Let His love break through in your life and through you…

A LETTER FROM FATHER (GOD) TO HIS CHILD

HI CHILD,
I HAVE SEEN YOU SUFFER FOR A VERY LONG TIME. I WANTED YOU TO KNOW THE PAIN IT CAUSES TO SEE YOUR FEAR AND YOUR MIND GOING THROUGH SO MUCH TORMENT IS BREAKING MY HEART. SON, YOU ARE MINE. I GAVE MY SON FOR YOU SO YOU COULD BE MY CHILD. I HAVE ADOPTED YOU, I HAVE REDEEMED YOU, SAVED YOU, FORGIVEN YOU, MADE YOU WHITE AS SNOW, SET YOU FREE, GAVE YOU MY POWER, GAVE YOU A CROWN, YOU ARE ROYALTY, BUT MOST OF ALL I HAVE GIVEN YOU MYSELF.
MY BLOOD WAS SHED FOR YOU, IF YOU WOULD HAVE BEEN THE ONLY ONE TO CALL ON ME TO BE SAVED I WOULD HAVE SITLL COME DOWN TO CREATION AND DIE SO YOU MIGHT LIVE WITH ME IN PARADISE. YOU HAVE BEEN GIVEN ALL AUTHORITY I HAVE. “BY MY WOUNDS YOU ARE HEALED”. NOTICE HOW I SAY IT PAST TENSE. YOU JUST HAVE TO RECEIVE MY HEALING. THE PLAN TO HAVE YOU MINE WAS LONG BEFORE I CREATED YOU. I HAVE NOT “GIVE YOU A SPIRIT OF FEAR, BUT OF POWER AND LOVE”. I “SING OVER YOU” AND “SING SONGS OF VICTORY AROUND YOU”. I PROMISE IN MY WORD, AND THE WORD IS ME AS YOU MIGHT REMEMBER THAT I AM WITH YOU ALWAYS, I AM “BESIDE YOU, GO BEFORE YOU, COVER YOU IN MY LOVE FOREVER”. THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO OR NOT DO TO CHANGE OUR RELATIONSHIP. YOU MIGHT FEEL FEELINGS, THINK THOUGHTS, BUT THOSE ARE NOT MINE.
WHEN YOU CALLED ON ME YOU WERE “GIVEN THE MIND OF CHRIST”, MY MIND. USE IT SON! I GAVE YOU ME, YOU ARE IN ME AND I IN YOU. YOU ARE COMMANDED TO GO “HEAL THE SICK, RAISE THE DEAD AND MAKE DISCIPLES OF ALL NATIONS’, BUT IT IS NOT EASY UNLESS YOU GET TO KNOW ME. AS YOU GET TO KNOW YOU YOU WILL KNOW YOURSELF AS WE ARE ONE. “I GIVE MY ANGELS CHARGE OVER YOU”. I FIGHT YOUR BATTLES, I PROMISED YOU I WOULD, LET ME MY CHILD.
I KNOW YOUR EARTHLY FATHER, MY SON ALSO, ABANDONED YOU AND THAT LEFT WOUNDS. I CALL THEM WOUNDS NOT SCARS BECAUSE SCARS ARE INDICATIONS THE WOUNDS ARE HEALED. HOWEVER, YOUR WOUNDS WILL BE HEALED BY ME AND ME ALONE. YOU DON’T HAVE TO TRY TO BE OKAY SOMEDAY, YOU ARE COMPLETE AND PERFECT NOW AND FOREVER YOU ARE THAT WAY IN MY EYES. YOUR SINS “ARE AS FAR AS THE EAST IS FROM THE WEST”. I TOLD YOU “OUR RELATIONSHIP IS IRREVOCABLE”. “WHO SHALL TAKE YOU OUT OF MY HAND”. MY THOUGHTS ABOUT YOU AND YOU ALONE ARE “MORE THAN THE GRANDS OF SAND, BEYOND MEASURE”. ON EARTH THERE ARE NUMBERS THAT ARE CONTINUAL BUT MY LOVE FOR YOU IS BEYOND THAT.
I KNOW YOU SIN CHILD, BUT “WHERE (YOUR) SIN GOES MY GRACE GOES MUCH FURTHER”…LET MY WORDS AND PROMISES SINK IN. YOU SEE ME AS A STRICT JUDGMENTAL AUTHORITY FIGURE. I HAVE GIVE YOU MY AUTHORITY, YOU ARE NO “LONGER UNDER THE LAW BUT GRACE”. YOU ARE MINE FOREVER, PLEASE SON, HEAL, GROW, RESTORE, HAVE PEACE, LAUGH, LEAD PEOPLE TO ME, CARE FOR YOURSELF, LOVE YOURSELF, BECAUSE IF YOU ARE NOT LOVING YOURSELF YOU ARE NOT LOVING ME…REMEMBER WE ARE ONE,FOREVER….WAIT FOR WHAT I HAVE IN STORE FOR YOU “NO HUMAN MIND CAN FATHOM WHAT I HAVE PLANNED FOR MY CHILDREN”. WHEN I ASCENDED I TOLD YOU I GO TO BUILD YOU A HOME.
REMEMBER SON, “I AM THE LION OF JUDAH, ROSE OF SHARON, YOUR REDEEMER, SAVIOR, ALPHA AND OMEGA, GOD OF THE LIVING NOT THE DEAD, EMMANUEL, ETERNAL ROCK, ALMIGHTY GOD, EVERLASTING FATHER….NOTICE EVERLASTING, YOU ARE MY EVERLASTING SON…I HAVE COVERED YOU IN WHITE, YOU ARE THE BRIDE FOR THE SON, EVEN IF YOU GET MAD AT ME YOU ARE MINE, EVEN IF YOU CURSE ME YOU ARE MINE, NO MATTER HOW FAR, HOW MUCH YOU RUN, MY GRACE IS SUFFICIENT AND I HAVE MADE YOU “MORE THAN AN OVERCOMER!” AGAIN, I LOVE YOU, MORE THAN YOU CAN FATHOM, BUT ASK ME AND I WILL SHOW YOU BUT I ASK YOU TO LET ME. WHEN I GAVE MY LIFE, THE LIFE OF MY SON, WHO IS GOD, I VALUED YOUR LIFE AS VALUABLE AS MINE.
LOVE,
DAD

And the Dark runs from the Light!

In the Dark of night, the darkness in the mind, the heart, our lives fear can be overwhelming. Fear, anxiety, worry, stress, confusion, anger, guilt, shame all make the dark of night much, much worse. These emotions “infect” and affect our minds and hearts to think and act in ways we are not created too. In Dialectic Behavioral Therapy (DBT) one of my favorite therapy techniques is “go where Angels dare to tread”. This means a therapist is to go where angels of God might fear to go. While personally I do no believe Angels fear the dark since they know the Lord and His eternal authority, I still love the message in the technique. The Light of Hope that we have in God breaks through the dark with an explosion of blinding, pure Light! When someone believes the pain experienced due to depression, the fear anxiety produces causing panic attacks, or the shame from past mistakes can be destroyed, hope breaks through. When someone calls on Jesus in therapy or life they start to believe in themselves again, believe they are worth dying for, know the truth for the first time they can be free from their chains, hope lights the dark.

In the War of the Mind, where darkness can rule and dictate how a person thinks, feels and behaves a person starts to believe that is what they deserve. We are sheep, weak, and when we do not know any other way than darkness, abuse, lies, fear, evil itself we feel worthless, hopeless, and unworthy of Love. I have found working with people in therapy and through my own experiences as a patient that the darkness while horrible is comfortable. Believing I can change and  to be free was something I never thought possible. Sometimes I did not want to think it was possible to have joy, peace, freedom because it was to scary to change being afraid all the time. However, the moment when a person believes for the first time “I am not how I see myself”, “I am worth knowing”, or “God loves me just the way I am and I can love myself because of Him” the darkness is afraid! A major goal of therapy is to help a person change their story, to make the darkness afraid of them vs being afraid of the dark. It is pure joy to see a person come alive again in therapy, to see them smile again, to see Love fill their hearts, to see Freedom ring. Therapy is work, changing the lies in the mind that someone has believed for years or maybe their whole life is and can be a daunting task. However, I have been in the dark, in the trenches, feeling alone but as I have learned just because I felt alone does NOT MEAN I was alone. I had the Savior, the Redeemer, the Great I AM, God with me, carrying me, leading me to Him.

Jesus said “I am the Light of the World and whoever follows Me (belongs to Me) will not walk in darkness but have the Light of life”. When we have Jesus we belong to Him forever and He is ours. He lives inside of us, the Bible even promises we have the “mind of Christ”. Jesus promises He is “making all things new”. This means our beliefs, emotions, behaviors, relationships, diagnoses, our lives. If you are in the dark, literally, figuratively or both, there is more hope than humans can fathom in Christ. Therapy is a way of defeating the dark and owning your mind vs it owning you. “The truth shall set you (us) free”! Jesus says “I am the Truth and the Life”, therefore, knowing Christ you can not, not know the truth. This means you and I are destined to have dominion over the dark and rule it versus letting it infect our lives. Finally, John 1:5 “The Light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it”.

This post was written with the intention of inspiring people to call on Jesus to shine His light in their lives, minds, hearts, and souls. To know Jesus is to be free. “When Jesus sets us Free, we are Free Indeed”! I have helped people personally and professionally to overcome their fears, the dark and let the light of hope blow away their fears. Help is here, in the night or day. This site is dedicated to give people help no matter what time it is. I end this post with a quote from one of my heroes, Helen Keller, a lady who was blind and deaf, “the world is full of suffering but it is also full of overcoming it”!

“We are MORE than Overcomers, through Him (Jesus) who first Loved us”

To Honor 2 Heroes for Christ

I see posts for Heroes from overseas who gave their lives and we hit “like” Love, sad, etc…I am posting this for 2 ladies, Rachel and Cassie, both 17 years old passed away at Columbine High School in Denver Colorado area. They were both murdered for not denying Christ. Cassie was asked with rifle to her head if she believed in God? She was told if she says yes she will be shot in the head if she says no in the knee…She said yes.

Rachel, was shot in the abdominal area and the 2 shooters came upon her and said “Do you still believe in God” She bravely said yes and was shot in the head to finish her off. I weep a bit for I know they are with their King, but these ladies, Daughters of the Most High, are Heroes, are the definition of being Brave.

Bravery is not the absence of fear, but going through the fear knowing Who is with you.- Adam Dale Pearson

Projection: What are Others Thinking about Me and Why?

Projection: When we are worried about what other people are thinking of when about us such as: “He’s fat”, “she’s ugly!”, “what a weirdo” “they don’t want me around”, “she’s a whore” “he’s not worthy”. Sound familiar? Projection is a defense mechanism. It is a way our brains get relief from the stress of the relationship we have with ourselves by implicating others to think the same way we think of us! Our brains pathologically want others to support the lies we believe, so we are validated in believing irrational thoughts about ourselves. This is why in therapy I tell people one goal of treatment is that you take charge of your mind. Most of us have been our brain’s Bitch! Pardon my French, but it is time to take charge of your mind and let the “Truth set you free” of who you really are and how eternally valuable you are!

We “project: our worse fears and insecurities on others, while they are thinking other things such as the things we just listed! What YOU believe about YOUrself= what YOU typically believe others think of YOU, good or bad. Again, the most important relationship to have with anyone, other than God, is with yourself. All relationships are impacted, infected, improved, destroyed, and so on from the mirror you have of YOU!

Thoughts, Emotions and Behavior: The Unending Relationship

How many thoughts do we process a day? Millions of conscious and unconscious thoughts. These thoughts create emotions. Our emotions affect our behavior and choices. They are separate but always together. When one changes for good or bad the others are effected. When we correct our irrational thoughts and beliefs, our emotions evolve, and our behavior changes, leading to decreased pathology. We learn new coping skills and begin to take control of our minds versus being a slave to it. This is therapy, retraining the mind to think healthy. Therapy is like going to the gym when you work with me for example, I am hard core coach. I demand you to work and get results so you are free of your brain’s dominion over you and you become the composer of you.

One of the most common questions I have heard in providing mental health is what is the difference between emotions and mood? Emotions are fleeting, they are ever changing, constant. A person’s mood lasts for a longer duration of time. An example of a typical mood is, “I am in a depressed mood”. A depressed mood can last for hours, even days. Getting back to emotions, one of the most important lessons to learn is they are not always true! For example, if I believe I am evil to the core and there is nothing good about me. This belief creates emotions such as guilt, fear, etc. Are these emotions true, no! They are valid because I am feeling them but they are not true because the belief that CREATED the EMOTIONS is false, irrational. Everything we believe needs to be as accurate, factual, and true as possible. These core beliefs create emotions which AFFECT our behavior.

Change creates change is an idiom I use in my personal and professional life. As we learn how we perceive ourselves, the world, and how the world views us we gain valuable insight into what thoughts needs altered. Most of the time, however, we need someone else’s help at first such as a therapist. It is the therapist’s goal to teach you to become your own therapist. When I see a client my goal is for them to reach the point they will never need me again! However, I always ensure they know they can come back at any point to coordinate and help with the War in the Mind. What lies are you believing about yourself now? “I’m horrible”, “No one likes me”, “I am ugly, unlovable, not worthy”. I bet you have experienced times when you think others are thinking these thoughts about you! This is your mind projecting your fears into a delusion, when 99% of the time people are thinking much better about you than you are, or they are not thinking about you at all. When a client who believes for example, “I am not worthy of love” starts to doubt that belief that have had for their life, hope increases, the wall starts to crack. The belief that has had the client in chains break and they believe they truth they are worthy of love and freedom rings. There is no greater joy in seeing people start to win the war in their mind.

Amazing Grace, How Powerful the Sound!

Truth is a fierce weapon to those who want to be Free!

Do you know the truth about you, a situation, who God is? If you are reading this and someone accused you of being illiterate, not being able to read, you would know without DOUBT, that the accusation is false and you move forward. Wouldn’t it be awesome if we did that so much more with the Truth about who we are, the value of our lives are worth that God gave His own life for us. The truth that you can be free of shame and guilt. When we do something wrong or fail in our culture it seems people believe trying to shame us, or calling us a FAILURE or another label will help everyone to make all things right??? What??? Is that what Jesus commands when He says “Do all things in Love”. Regret, Guilt, Shame, emotions that are felt but only for as long as we choose too. Jesus’s blood took care of having to feel those emotions. We can choose instead to enjoy His Love, Grace, Power, Joy, Freedom in Him! He trumps logic, He trumps the should “feel this”, “should have done this”, the “regrets”, the “failures”. You name it He covers You and Me. “Godly kindness leads to repentance (turning away from evil choices less)”. Being kind and loving to people, who sin (all of us including to ourselves), is how we will grow and change.

The prostitute who was at Jesus’s feet at the taxpayer’s house met her Savior and cried at His feet and wiped her tears with her hair. The “good people” looked at Jesus wondering why He was talking to the slut of the town. God said to her, “While your sins are many, they are forgiven”. Can you imagine the Love she felt for Christ at that moment! She did not have to do anything to EARN His love and forgiveness, just receive it. The “good people” who need Grace too for how they are thinking asked the Redeemer, Why are You talking to her? He responded “How much more will she love Me because of the depth of My forgiveness for all her numerous sins.Will she not love Me more than someone who believes they sinned little anything to forgive?!”(paraphrased a little to make a point)

Starting with yourself, receive forgiveness for you from you because of Him. “But no, I don’t deserve it!” “But that isn’t right!” But….the buts go on and on. However, “where sin goes Grace goes much further”. Therefore, again how we think based upon how we are raised in this world does not usually match with how God commands us to treat ourselves and others. Notice how I continually emphasize, “OURSELVES”. In therapy, albeit individual, group, family, the most important relationship is the one with yourself. How we see and treat ourselves will effect all other relationships. Be nice to yourself, know the truth about you, choose to feel ashamed if you want or Freedom. If you are in Christ, though, you are “Free Indeed if Christ set you Free”..How you want to feel is up to you. What a Savior!